I wanted to wrote a blog on pregnancy anxieties and fears and worries that may come up and how to curb them.
As it seemed evidently clear yesterday with the midwife, that some people really do experience some adverse effects to the hormones during pregnancy. I am one of the lucky ones who gets to experience the hormones on a happy note. Of course I get down at times and anxious at the thought of actually having to be complete care for a little one but am mostly excited for it!
I think my best tips for anxiety or stress during pregnancy;
Theres no point letting yourself get to the point where you can't breathe and have panic attacks, it's not healthy for you or the baby. My mum said it perfectly to me one day 'Think of how it feels for you, a times that by 10'. She's right.
So now everytime I get upset, nervous, anxious I try to deal with it straight away so that Im not stressing the baby out too.
Breathing is a great way to calm yourself down, become aware of your breathing pattern, how fast you are breathing. Literally stop and sit and take deep breaths.
Drink some water, sometimes I become shaky when I have too much sugar.
Understand that your thoughts are COMPLETELY NORMAL, most other pregnant women do have the same thoughts at some point. One thing that has helped me, is I joined a forum on the internet for mums to be. It can be sad, happy, frustrating as you are dealing with other people opinions you may not agree with but every now and then its great to get support and give it, and of course realise that everyone feels the same way. When I was having problems with my sleeping pattern, increased appetite and fatigue everyone around the same weeks pregnant as me was feeling the same. It can be informative as well.
One thing that has helped me surpass my panic attacks and anxiety a fair bit (about 99%) I only get anxiety now in very small splurts, is meditation. Now I don't mean meditation in the sense of how we see it in movies, on tv, or how others think you should meditate. I do believe that everyone has their own way of meditation. Yes some people do prefer to sit on a giant pillow with their legs crossed, personally I can't do that. To me meditation is a bit of a ritual, so when Im ready to go to sleep at night, I have a ritual/routine that helps me relax.
The first thing I do is make sure the room is clean of clutter. Nothing worse than a floordrobe. I have a couple pictures I've pastel coloured on the floor and some odd junk, but as long as the room is appeasing to my energy Im happy, mostly I like to put clothes away and tidy it up to my happiness.
I like to make sure my quilt is on the bed properly and looks appeasing once again to my energy.
I have a Himilayan salt lamp that I turn on as it helps dispel negative energies, I wish I could leave it on 24/7!
I then get my incense holder and light some incense or some sage, either is good to settle any nerves, anxiety, fears or worries, it completely cleanses my meditative 'palette' and helps me get ready to relax.
I have a favourite music that helps me calm down and relax, Deva Premal, I have a couple of her albums on my ipad are 'The essence' and 'Embrace' and I put one of them on, it's is beautiful and enchanting music.
I prefer to meditate before I go to bed because more often than not my best time to astrally project or connect spiritually with myself/other beings or even just relaxing and calming myself, more often than now I fall asleep, so it's the best time for me.
If you have a really good sized bath, it's also good to meditate in the bath. Put some soothing tunes on, I always get 4 tealights and light them and put one on each corner of the bath, light some incense and relax. This is also an amazing way to relax, especially while pregnant!
However my partner is more into the magick side of things and he meditates completely differently. He also uses incense and a nice energetic room, but he does it anytime of the day, so it really is about finding what's GOOD FOR YOU!
My partner at first was trying to do things that had helped me but it really showed he had to find his own personal touch for meditation. Eating a good diet and drinking plenty of water is great for meditation too. It is good to keep yourself at a high vibration with lots of fruit and veges instead of majority of your diet being processed foods as that won't help your energy be calm and relaxed.
As a pregnant woman, keeping to these methods has really helped when I have pains like ligament pains or small cramps or just feeling overall shit which happens a fair bit!
Just some ideas on how to stay relaxed and present and still, instead of worrying about every little thing that has happened or might happen.
I understand I am extremely lucky having stayed low risk at the moment, but these are just some handy hints that may help at times when it all seems so bleak xx
