I really realise a few things about why Kane and I are where we are today.
I experienced a lecturer speaking of how we really haven't changed from the 1800's to now 2013- mostly on the topic of radicalism and change and how we STILL in this day and age fear change and if you want to push change or challenge others with different ideals/values/beliefs it is STILL seen as a radical view just because it's different to a social 'norm' construct.
The amount of times that Kane & I have a long reflective/intuitive conversation/vent and then how often it futuristically (possibly not even a word) becomes truth is becoming more and more obvious in day to day life. It's so incredible how we see the world now (compared to when we first met) and how everything seems to fall into place without much except self belief and value....which then creates an action we aren't physically in control of. It definitely helps increase in happiness and appreciation for everything in life, however in the end we can only be thankful to ourselves for the confidence we assume, and radiate, because without that we'd probably still be in Adelaide bumming around with no goals, hopes or dreams cemented and actually enjoyable in life.
I absolutely LOVE my new university so far, it's MUCH more interactive and informative than any lecture/lecturer tutorial/tutor I had at UniSA - with exception of one class I did enjoy whilst there. There is MUCH less confusion and MUCH more understanding of students and what we are there for and what we NEED to learn to construct what SOCIAL WORK is for US and how different it can be for everyone, since we will all go into different career paths and all have different cultures, religions, social constructs, values, beliefs, hopes and dreams to each other. I did NOT find that in the 3 years I spent at UniSA. They were sensitive to different 'people' but very little flexibility to what was taught and how it was taught and I found it to be MUCH more structurall/regimented/
Also with Kane's confidence, self belief and realisations of his past work all being completely credible to what work he can do in Melbourne, already in LESS than a year - he had landed two theatre roles, and when they ended in the last 5 weeks, he has since acquired 2 casual jobs in a similar industry and had another call for a possible full time role yesterday, which would feed so many sides of creative levels, so fingers crossed on that one!
Without the move we have made, we don't believe we would have grown to the extent we have, it would have been hard to be happy with what we had as we both thrive on challenges in life and change to motivate us. Kane would definitely not have had the same positivity surrounding him with employment, as he was trying to get into these exact roles for 3 years in Adelaide, and without the challenge of the move, us being apart for 9 months, being away from family and friends and having to create his own contacts and start 'new', neither of us would be where we are today.
We got some flack for wanting to move, because for some reason people seem to defend Adelaide, like moving interstate was such a bad thing? Like we were abandoning people/Adelaide etc - yet for 3 years finding work was impossible for Kane in the industry he was happy in, that he should have just worked any job he got because well other people do that right? The defending of the music culture in Adelaide was another common conversation, which is another thing that his life revolves around, is so different here, with MUCH more variety and a population that enjoys the more 'niche' genres and music that he creates/enjoys. There are many things we moved here for and even now going back to Adelaide, we both just don't have the same inspiration or energy we feel in Melbourne and OF COURSE it is different for everyone. YOU may be happy in Adelaide, but we weren't, why can't people just accept that and move on? Why would our 'friends' try to keep us in a city that no longer works for us on so many levels? It definitely baffled me. Moving here has been sublime! I ended up just having to walk away, but I never did understand the thinking behind it.
Kane & I aren't the kind of people who went from high school to university, we didn't buy a house, we didn't buy a car, we didn't get married before we decided to have a child, we have worked in possibly the most backwards way in life, HOWEVER we would both agree wholeheartedly that for us, we had to experience what we did, learn those lessons before we could 1. stumble across each other 2. grow in our relationship 3. grow individually and 4. keep a level of humble and happy attitude. I really don't think we'd be where we are now, if we had not bloomed later than most and learnt those things earlier on in life. but you know what? We've got there in the end and we are happy enough with that! Of course there's NOTHING wrong with doing the opposite to what we've experienced, but personally for both of us, it would not have worked.
After reflecting enough for today, I do believe, you need to constantly challenge yourself and if you want those around you so you are constantly moving into different directions. If you stay stagnant, you will become bitter, cynical and fearful of any change and this will impact on all happiness and enjoyment of life. Life is about making decisions, choices, challenges, different experiences, failures, flaws, pasts, presents, futures, fears and without living for every day as it is, and loving ourselves, we really are missing out on the more content path where life will flow much more and positively.
It really makes me how social 'norm' constructed we are not and how okay we are with that.
