I have been away for a while. Trying to live the ups and downs of life, the ins and outs, trials and tribulations. Uni and work toook a strong hold on any life I had for quite a while, but now I'm back!
So something I've been learning about lately is about defence systems. We all according to Freud have an ego defence mechanism and this is often what can keep conflict going without an ability to just let go.
I always saw defending yourself as a vital thing in life because it's unfair to have people trolloping around accusing you of things that are completely unjust. However, I have now learnt that people will only hear what they want anyway, so if someone that feels a victim in a situation is talking trash, whoever they are telling will hear them and make their own judgement completely external anyway, no matter if they believe it or not, then if I went around convincing people I was the one who was full of truth, what's the point? It feels like it would be a whole lot of wasted breath as those that know who I am as a selfless person would know I do not act within a selfish realm and know I am rational in thought and fair in judgement.
In other words, let them say and think what they want, if you know that you acted with complete diligence and fairness than take that upon your sense of self and be happy.
In the end, you're all that matters as you're the only one you can completely trust.
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